Geez I hate it when someone makes me emotional. I just hate it. I see it as a form of manipulation unlike physical force. Instead of punching you in the face, someone can say some hurtful things that would wound you as bad, albeit emotionally.

I read on a blog yesterday that says that our level of happiness is inherently tied to the level of happiness of our family. That is true, but one part of me wants to disbelieve in that. I feel like some people just attract problems into their lives, and if you try to listen to their story, they would only b*tch to you about stuff that basically don’t need to be b*tched out. Such are the drama queens in this world, and i dislike this type of people. They use the fact that someone is listening to their story, to manipulate the story to incite some kind of emotions out of you, usually to incite you to hate the person he/she is hating. If you listen to their stories, you can’t help but get ‘infected’ with their emotions. From a normal emotional state, i suddenly become sad and feel heavy in my heart just listening to a person’s hateful story. I feel like an innocent bystander caught in the drama based on irrationality and untruths, and biases created by angry/egoic minds.

How come some people just can’t stop making enemies in their lives? And when they feel offended (even though it’s not warranted) they would spread their anger and hate into the people around them, often who has nothing at all to do with the problem. It’s okay to get angry and speak to someone else about it, but never let that anger consume you and make you blind to the real emotional effects you are causing other people. And guess what, usually since you’ve hurt people around you needlessly, karma is going to get you again. I have witnessed this again and again. In the past, when someone has mistreated me, i always feel so angry, that i do not deserve to be treated this way, or that the person could have been more sensitive to my feelings. But very soon, karma works its wheels, and some misfortune will befall on the person, and now he/she is at the receiving end of all the emotional hurts he/she has caused to the people around.

So can we do anything to help these people? These so called drama queens. I have tried listening to them (alot) and giving some advice here and there on what i think would be rational to do that would help solve the problem. But usually listening would only let their ego talk louder and they would continually b*tch about the other person. I don’t understand why people love to b*tch so much. Their lack of self-awareness cause them to be stuck at hating instead of on solving the problem. And when you give them honest opinions from a 3rd person’s point of view, they dismiss it and blame you instead for not siding with them. Such drama queens, their minds are set, and no longer open. Like the Chinese say, it’s like ‘playing music to a cow’. They won’t get it. They are furious and their minds are closed. There is no use talking to these people. If you get close to them, you only get caught up in their string of lies.

I am generally an emotionless person. I don’t react to things as emotionally as other people. I like it this way because i am of the belief that emotions are an impediment to rationality. And thus limiting emotions in life would be a good way to go about life in a controlled, rational manner. However i find it difficult to block out the emotions of others. I feel infected by their emotions. I feel it unfair that I have to go through what they have caused. I use to think that you can be friends with everyone, all it takes is a tolerance, but now i believe that some people are really unsave-able and it would be better if you just distance yourself from them as early as you can.